Let’s face it, no one wants to become an expert on how to move on after divorce. Truth be told, very few people get married with the intention of breaking up and moving on.
And if you are deeply religious or spiritual, how to move on after divorce can be even tougher.
No doubt about it, when you are born and raised with the belief that according to God’s word you were made to be in relationship with others. When, verse after verse, scripture after scripture reminds you that the strongest relationship is the one between a man and a woman.
That you were made to come together in holy matrimony and form a bond that shall not be broken.
Well, when you are raised with those kind of beliefs, getting a divorce sucks and it’s hard not to feel a bit guilty because of it.
Now before we go any further, I want you to understand, that a struggling marriage oftentimes can be saved. It’s not an easy fix and it’s going to require a real willingness to change between both people.
But we aren’t talking about that today. Today’s message is for you if you are already divorced. It’s for those of you who may find yourself struggling to cope and stay positive because what was is no more.
How to Move on After Divorce!
First things first, you must begin to cultivate and maintain habits that will help you release and let go of any guilt, judgment or shame that you’ve been holding on to.
In the Bible, it quite often talks about the “enemy” and in this moment the enemy is…
Those feelings of being a failure and that you just weren’t good enough. You need to release them and remember that you are enough, just as you are.
Sometimes the “enemy” will want you to believe that you have let your children down, your family and maybe even God, because you let your marriage end.
Again, you must release those negative thoughts from your mind. Pray, meditate and keep your eyes on God. The power of God is within you. You are a beloved child of God.
Of course, as if that wasn’t enough, you still must face the daily stresses of life.
However, no matter what happens or what’s going on in your life. You must always remember to take care of yourself first. Maintain an attitude of gratitude for all the blessings that are sprouting in your life.
The truth is, when you can maintain the resolve to spend time in prayer. When you can let go of the negative feelings and give them to God.
Sooner rather than later you will begin to realize…
I am loving life after divorce!
You will become empowered in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.
And when those feelings of guilt begin to arise because you feel guilty about loving life after divorce.
You will already know how to handle it. Trust me, the guilt of loving life is easier to let go of than the guilt you are letting go of from being divorced.
In the end, life continues to carry on after divorce and one day you jut might realize that happiness is a choice…