Life can seem harder than it should be, if you grow up living in an environment full of childhood trauma and abuse.
When you are abused as child, one of the effects might be that you have a hard time starting things, even though once you do begin there is no stopping you.
The truth is, not all childhood trauma is physical, often it has a mental and emotional aspect to it that is far more damaging.
Let’s face it, when you grow up in a toxic environment where your parents and family put you down. When you live in a household so lacking in love that no one has the capacity or capability of building you up. Quite often, you are going to grow up and find yourself lacking in any kind of self-confidence.
But that’s just part of the story…
Healing After Childhood Trauma!
Christian life coach Randy Boyd of grew up in an environment where his stepfather and mother were incapable of treating him with the loving-kindness and nurturing that we all need to thrive and grow into healthy and loving adults.
Yet, despite this, he was able to overcome the odds and live the life we all dream about becoming. He grew up to become a successful business owner and family man.
However, living the life as a survivor of emotional, spiritual, and child sexual abuse, still had a lingering influence over his life. Even with all the success and happiness that is supposed to come with living life beyond your expectations. At that point in his life, Randy still struggled daily with a sense of low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. To make matter’s even more challenging , he leaned on a chemical dependency to help wash away the pain.
As a matter of fact, like many of us, Randy found himself dropping into such a depth of darkness and despair in his life that at times he felt like he would never see the light of hope again.
But by the grace of God, Randy was able to see the light and learn how to live life to the fullest. Today, Randy has not only overcome the darkness he is a thriving survivor.
And he is here to tell you that there is a solution for hope and healing.
Thriving After Childhood Trauma
Randy started his journey of healing and recovery over 12 years ago in 2005. Since then he has helped hundreds of men work their way out of the darkness as well.
Part of that process of healing was realizing that his stepdad and mom’s behaviors and attitudes towards him were all learned behaviors.
What’s more, these behaviors and attitudes tend to be handed down from generation to generation. Once this realization began to take root in his awareness. It was easy to understand and see that they were incapable of treating him with loving kindness and nurturing him as a child.
Of course, he also had the deeper understanding that just because he was raised in an abusive environment doesn’t justify repeating those behaviors with children, family, or friends.
You Can Make The World a Better Place!
No doubt about it, we must be willing to change the cycles of abuse in our lives. We can be the change that makes our families healthier and stronger. Yes. You can create a happier and more fulfilling life for you and your family.
Randy truly understands that if he hadn’t experienced all that he has in his life. Then he would’s be where he is today, thriving in life. He found the blessing in the pain. His parents behaviors and the childhood trauma that he went through taught him how to NOT treat his family.
The fact of the matter is…
If you are willing, everything you experience in life is a lesson and everyone you meet is a teacher.
What lesson do you need to learn from your past?
Is God trying to show you something?
There are plenty of lessons that Randy learned from his childhood traumas.
He has learned the value in surrounding himself with people who are willing to encourage and love him.
Even though, Randy is a successful life coach who helps lead men down the road of recovery. He still works with a wellness coach because we all need to be gently pushed and encouraged. Sometimes it helps to be reminded to step outside of our comfort zone.
In the end, we all came here to learn and experience more from this life. We have come here to grow emotionally and spiritually. And the more spiritual growth that we experience the more we will begin to live a life of love.